8 Parenting Mistakes That Can Affect a Child’s Adult Life

8 Parenting Mistakes That Can Affect a Child’s Adult Life
Responsible parents will do
anything to raise a happy and successful child, but sometimes they fail.
Parenting mistakes can cause children to start analyzing the events that happen
around them and create a worldview that has an impact on their future life.
Bright Side wants this world
to be full of happy children and adults, that’s why today, we’ll discuss some
negative moments that will definitely affect a child’s adult life.
8. You don’t show your child
you love them.
8 Parenting Mistakes That Can Affect a Child’s Adult Life
For a small human being, their
mom and dad are the most important people in the whole world. What happens when
a child doesn’t feel their parents’ love?
  • Their self-esteem suffers a
    lot and they don’t love themselves. As a result, some people try to change
    themselves with the help of plastic surgery in adult life.
  • Others, on the contrary, try
    to give all their love to their own children and turn their care into total
    control, and their children will feel unhappy as well.


7. You try to control
everything.
8 Parenting Mistakes That Can Affect a Child’s Adult Life
Why should parents build a
relationship with their kids without constant control? Parents sometimes forget
that their children have grown up and continue doing everything for them. These
children don’t grow up emotionally and will experience problems with their
relationships.
  • They will continue to think
    that the whole world revolves around them. They’ll also be unable to build
    healthy relationships since they can’t make decisions and only think about
    themselves, and this attitude will most definitely lead to conflict.

6. You don’t empower your
child to make their own decisions.
8 Parenting Mistakes That Can Affect a Child’s Adult Life
When parents make decisions
for their children, they’re not letting their kids be independent. Every child
should have the right to make a choice (with support and according to their
age).
  • The inability to make
    decisions makes people incapable of problem solving, and they will always need
    someone to help them. It won’t be easy for them to find their place in this
    world because they don’t even know what they want.

5. You argue around them
constantly.
8 Parenting Mistakes That Can Affect a Child’s Adult Life
If parents argue constantly,
children may think that they are to blame. They don’t understand what’s going on
and think they’re guilty.
  • These people usually try to
    avoid different conflicts or, on the contrary, abuse others. In the future,
    girls unconsciously try to show men that they’re stronger and young men usually
    repeat their fathers’ behavior. Additionally, they often understand that what
    they’re doing is bad and may develop addiction problems as a result.

4. You demand the impossible.

8 Parenting Mistakes That Can Affect a Child’s Adult Life 
A child trusts the adults in
their life, especially their parents, and struggles to do everything they’re
told to do. If they fail, they start thinking that they’re losers who don’t
deserve to be loved.
  • It’s almost impossible to live
    with this type of person. They will always be too focused on success. If they
    fail to do their best (in their opinion), they will feel unhappy, and even
    depressed. These people also usually try to prevent their family members from
    being happy.


3. You train your child to be
convenient.

8 Parenting Mistakes That Can Affect a Child’s Adult Life
Unfortunately, controlling a
child’s desires is a normal phenomenon. Parents often tell their child to go
and watch TV or play a video game, so that their child doesn’t disturb them.
It’s fine if these situations don’t occur very often, but as a rule, it
shouldn’t happen on a regular basis. Every parents’ goal is to raise a person
who’s able to live in the world independently and make their own decisions,
following their own needs and values.
  • These people usually can’t
    live a normal independent life and turn into dependent adults. They also don’t
    understand what they want and it affects their health and causes different
    addiction issues.


2. As a father, you don’t pay
enough attention to your child.

8 Parenting Mistakes That Can Affect a Child’s Adult Life
The lack of a father’s
attention affects the future lives of both boys and girls. It’s mostly about
those families where fathers just don’t pay enough attention to their children,
they just exist and that’s it. A child’s courage and their personal development
depend on their fathers. So what happens when children don’t get enough
attention?
  • A boy might behave the same way
    as his father used to behave. And girls usually experience difficulties in
    building romantic relationships. The thing is, women choose men that resemble
    their fathers. They want to have a happy family, but their childhood experience
    makes them feel suspicious about men.


1. You downplay your child’s
feelings.

8 Parenting Mistakes That Can Affect a Child’s Adult Life
Sometimes children get upset
about things that look silly to adults. But instead of support, they get an
assessment (Like “That’s bad,” “That’s good,” or “Boys don’t cry”) or orders
(Like “Stop crying” or “Don’t be angry”). That’s how feelings and emotions get
downplayed.
  • The more a person understands
    and controls their feelings, the more resilient this person is. This is also
    important when it comes to making decisions. In adult life, these people can’t
    share their emotions and they suppress their anger until they explode.


Do you agree that our
childhood influences our adult life?

SOURCE: BRIGHTSIDE
Kayode Ojo
Kayode Emmanuel Ojo is the Co-Founder and Managing Director at SHEFFA Limited. He is presently studying Computer Science at the National Open University, Victoria Island, Lagos.