8 Ways to Tame Your Kid’s Meltdowns Like a Rockstar

8 Ways to Tame Your Kid’s Meltdowns Like a Rockstar 

If you think that coping with
your kid’s tantrums is one of the worst parts of parenting, you are not alone.
Every parent has to face their kid’s meltdowns once in a while. Tantrums may be
loud, irritating, and even frightening, but it’s just a natural process that
every child goes through while growing up. It’s important to know how to calm
your kid down without hurting their feelings, and experts are ready to share
their tips.
Here at Bright Side we’ve
picked a few of the most effective techniques that will help you cope with your
kid’s emotional breakdowns, and here’s what you need to know.
1. Let your child be upset and
acknowledge their feelings.
8 Ways to Tame Your Kid’s Meltdowns Like a Rockstar
Emotional breakdowns are
normal for both kids and adults, and we all need time and personal space to
cope with our feelings. Don’t try to calm down your kid. If they are in a safe
place, just give them this time and space. If your child is running during
tantrums, let them run, just make sure that their surroundings are safe and no
one gets hurt.
2. Don’t blame your kid.
8 Ways to Tame Your Kid’s Meltdowns Like a Rockstar
Kid’s meltdowns, especially
those that happen in public, are often frowned upon by the people around us.
People disapprove of noise, loud laughter, running, screaming, and any other
“extremes.” Remember that kids are not as good at taming their emotions as
adults, and don’t blame them for their natural need to offload their feelings.
Some parents blame their kids
for their emotional breakdowns, because they take it personally. Even if your
kid screams at you and says words that hurt your feelings, remember that their
actions are not directed at you, they’re just simply showing their frustration.
3. Help your child move past
their frustration.
8 Ways to Tame Your Kid’s Meltdowns Like a Rockstar
If your kid’s meltdown is
caused by their failure to put on their shoes, just help them to master this
skill. If you help them, the tantrum will likely not happen again for the same
reason, and your child will have the precious feeling of accomplishment
instead. If you cannot satisfy your kid’s urge at the moment, instead of
saying, “You can’t do it!” or “This isn’t allowed!” offer a milder alternative
like, “Let’s do it together next time, and I will help you.”
4. Hug them really tight.
8 Ways to Tame Your Kid’s Meltdowns Like a Rockstar
Strong and firm hugs will help
your child feel secure, and make them feel that you are there to help, even if
you don’t agree with their behavior. Additionally, hugs increase the level of
oxytocin, the hormone that reduces stress and maintains psychological
5. Choose the right words to
8 Ways to Tame Your Kid’s Meltdowns Like a Rockstar
Experts say that the louder
your child cries, the softer you should speak, but it’s also about what you
actually say. Don’t discuss the tantrum with the child when they are worked up,
this will not be effective. Instead calmly, but firmly, say that they will not
get what they want by screaming and kicking, and you will talk to them later
when they’re calm.
Discuss the meltdown
afterward, using simple language and acknowledging your kid’s frustration. Some
good phrases that experts suggest using are:
“You were very angry because
your food wasn’t the way you wanted it.”
“I’m sorry I didn’t understand
you. Now that you’re not screaming, I can find out what you want.”

6. Make it comfortable and
Try to redirect your kid’s
attention to something that calms them down. This may be their favorite book, a
snack they love, or a toy they adore. These mind distractors will get your
child engaged, and chances are they will soon forget about their meltdown and
its reason. “Children have pretty short attention spans—which means they’re
usually easy to divert,” experts explain.
7. Offer your child some food
or a nap.
8 Ways to Tame Your Kid’s Meltdowns Like a Rockstar
Just remember how awful you
feel when you are hungry or when you miss out on your sleep. Well, kids feel
exactly the same. Psychologists suggest that whenever your kid has a tantrum,
you should try offering them a snack or giving them some rest, be it a nap or
watching a cartoon. It may happen that your child is just sleepy or hungry, and
you won’t need to exert any more effort to calm them down.
8. Keep your own temper under
A crying child can distress
any parent, but you won’t be able to comfort your kid if you are just screaming
at each other. Take a deep breath and calmly, but firmly, try to explain to
your child that throwing tantrums is not the best way to get what they want.
Set a good example for your kids and they will learn how to cope with their
negative emotions just by watching how you do it.
Which of these strategies
sounds the most effective to you? How do you cope with your kid’s meltdowns?
Feel free to share your thoughts and tips in the comments!

Kayode Ojo
Kayode Emmanuel Ojo is the Co-Founder and Managing Director at SHEFFA Limited. He is presently studying Computer Science at the National Open University, Victoria Island, Lagos.