Are you proud of your friends? Are you proud of those you spend much of your time with?

Can you beat your chest and say your friends helped you become better, that they helped you see yourself as you are, that they helped you overcome fear and doubt, that they inspired you to reach for a goal?

Can your friends boast of having you as a friend? Have you helped a friend improve? Have you introduced to them something of worth that you know? Do you link them up to opportunities? Do you encourage them to aim for better? Do you help them overcome their fears and doubts?

Think on this!

Friends are the next strongest circle after Family. Friends can leave a lasting impact on your life than your family can. Friends make or mar people’s lives. Most of the habits and mannerisms that a lot of people live with were gotten from their friends. A lot of individuals have turned out successful in life as a result of their friends and many became failures because of their friends.

Are you in the right circle of friends? Are your friends helping you grow or make you slow?

Think about that!

Coupled with the decision to grow should be the desire to have new friends. Making new friends should be intentional and must be backed up with wisdom. You don’t have to make friends for the sake of friendship. You make friends with people on a journey to relevance, people who share common values and ideals with you, people who are smart from whom you can drink inspiration and to whom you can pour the same.

Would you be looked on as bad if you distance yourself from unprogressive associations? Well, maybe, but you are allowed to do what is for your good whether it hurts people or not. Seek new and better associations and do it with a goal of mutual benefit, to give, and to receive.

Remember, friends, make or mar. Ensure that your friends are making positive deposits in you and be a friend that makes the lives of friends better.

Victor Negro
Victor Negro is an author, screenwriter, and personal development specialist. He is the founder of Evolving Minds Training and Consulting through which he offers products and counseling services on self-improvement, capacity building, and mind science. He writes on matters of life and existence as he thinks, preferring a better understanding of common questions. Read his interesting and thought provoking pieces at