LIFE AND THE ESSENCE OF LIVING (PART
2)
Love is the essence of life. Without love,
life does not make any sense
.” – Debasish Mridha


On
Sunday evening, I was preparing for the first full working week in October when
I heard the news that one of my neighbors lost her life during child-birth. I
still do not have the full details of the unfortunate incident but I learnt
that she died as a result of complications resulting from childbirth. I also
heard that she lost an unprecedented amount of blood and she could not survive,
she also lost her new born baby in the tragic event.


For
starters, we are not close in any way; I only got to know her name after her
death because I do not have a lot of friends in the neighborhood. I stay
indoors for most of my weekends and spend quality time with my family members,
watch CNN, football matches and movies on my laptop; that is if I do not have
planned engagements in that particular weekend. I fought hard to take the pain
away from my mind because it is a terrible way to start the week and I had to
pay a condolence visit to the bereaved Widower when I got back from work on
Monday.  In consequence, I did a brief
self examination, I thought about a number of things and that sad occurrence
inspired this piece.

First
things first, I thought about the embarrassing level of healthcare in the
country, the nonchalant attitude of our Leaders towards the sound health and
well-being of Nigerians and the condemn-able situation of things in the medical
sector. In the staff bus, while I was on my way to work on Monday morning, I
heard an unbelievable story from one of the Lagos State civil servants who lost
her husband the previous week to a preventable and untimely death. Apparently,
He was critically ill and He was rushed to a number of Government Hospitals
before Idi Araba eventually accepted him. According to the Widow, her Husband
was placed in a dehumanizing condition because the Hospital’s Administrators
claimed they were out of bed and other essentials, she noted that she had to
call a Commissioner she had previously worked for who called the Medical
Director before Sickbed and other necessary facilities were made available to
her late husband who had already given up the ghost before help finally came
his way. What a calamity! You might think her story is not true, I hoped so too
but it is.

Secondly,
I also thought about the fact that as every second goes by, I am getting closer
to my own grave! I also thought about that day I will go six feet below, what
people would say about me when I am no longer there to defend myself. Who will
spend those millions I have worked so hard for? All those material things I
cherish so much, Will I need them then? I do not want to answer these questions
and I am sure you feel the same way. Truth be told, death is inevitable and we
do not have the liberty to know and determine when we are going to exit this
world except for some exceptional cases. This writer also understands that life
is a precious gift and every minute needs to be enjoyed to the fullest. In
subsequent paragraphs, I would share seven (7) important tips necessary for an
impactful life.


1.
Love – Love and appreciate yourself. Spread the love factor around you.

Life is love. Love of self, child, partner,
work, others, pet, nature; whatever resonates with each person. And, faith in
one’s self or higher spiritual power, has to be bigger than doubt
.” ~
Marina Theodotou
2.
Create experiences – Create and share memorable experiences worth smiling
about.

Creation means your brain is in active mode
and that you are the author. A thought becomes an action, the action becomes a
habit, which turns into a way of life. Striking the right balance of creating
while nurturing the temple of our soul is the key.”
~ Thomas Peccini.
3.
Be yourself

There is no room for pretentiousness in
life. It’s energy draining to try to be something which you are not. Listen to
your heart and follow that little voice inside you.”
~ Prokopis Solomou
4.
Live the moment

Embrace every little moment of happiness and
make the best memories
.” ~ Miranda Zachariou.
“Pause for a moment and open all your senses.
Listen to the birds sing, the wind rustling the leaves and breathe in the
silence. You are surrounded by the essence of life.”

~ Anna Donovan
5.
Be positive – Think positive and flush out negative thoughts.

“Be positive. Smile at life and it will smile
back at you. Remember, negative thoughts are toxic.”

~ Prokopis Solomou
Learn to see and live life with the eyes of
the heart and soul
.” ~ Maria Thrasyvoulou
6.
Invest in quality time. Spend quality time with loved ones.

“Life is spending more time with people who
matter the most
.” ~ Christos Economides
7.
Evolve – Learn – Grow

“The essence of life is constant growth. Every
day, I remind myself to keep moving, to be open to change, to keep 
enquiring and try to better myself.”
 ~ Harry
Mavromichalis (Source: The Essence of Life in 10 Quotes – Mahi Solomou)
God
Bless the Living, God Bless the Dead

Olusanya,
Oluwole Sheriff
Oluwole Olusanya
Oluwole Olusanya is the Founder and Chief Executive Officer (CEO) of one of the fastest-growing lifestyle and entertainment website in the country. He is a banker, writer, blogger, public affairs analyst and a tax consultant. He anchors Trending Topics on SHEFFA where he shares his thoughts and opinions on trending issues. He is currently studying for a Master’s Degree in Business Administration at the University of South Wales, Wales, United Kingdom. He has diplomas in Banking and Finance, Investigative Journalism, Creative Writing, and Linguistics from Lagos State Polytechnic, Isolo, Lagos, University of Strathclyde, Glasgow, Scotland and The Open University, Milton Keynes, United Kingdom.