Recovering From A Breakup Takes This Long

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While
breakups are painful, most people recover and even gain some strength from
them.
Self-esteem
takes around one year to recover from a relationship breakup, psychological
research finds.
It did not
matter if people remained single or not in this period, it still took the same
amount of time for self-esteem to recover.
However,
while breakups are painful, most people recover and even gain some strength
from them, the study’s authors write:
“Even
though relationship break-ups are painful, people tend to recover from them and
move on. Especially in adolescence and young adulthood, when individuals are
dating, have their first romantic relationship, try different types of
relationships, and search the right partner to spend their life with,
relationship breakups are not unusual and, thus, normative. […] …individuals
tend to report positive changes after experiencing relationship break-up, such
as gaining inner strength and maturity, and report having learned important
lessons that will be useful in future relationships.”
The
conclusions come from over 9,000 German adults who were followed for three
years.
The results
showed that breakups of relationships that had lasted a year or more are
particularly damaging to self-esteem.
Subsequently
starting a new relationship increased self-esteem, as long as the new
relationship lasts.
However,
shorter relationships — those lasting less than a year — tended to reduce
people’s self-esteem.
Recovery from a breakup took around one year,
the authors write:
“…the
decrease in self-esteem after a relationship break-up is only temporary and
that the person’s self-esteem is recovered already one year later. Thus,
although research on many psychological phenomena suggests that “bad is
stronger than good” —that is, the effects of negative events, negative
interactions, and negative emotions are often stronger than the effects of
positive events, positive interactions, and positive emotions—in the present
research the effect of beginning a relationship (i.e., a positive transition)
was more sustained than the
effect of
relationship break-up (i.e., a negative transition).”
The study
was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (Luciano
& Orth, 2017).
SOURCE: PSYBLOG
Kayode Ojo
Kayode Emmanuel Ojo is the Co-Founder and Managing Director at SHEFFA Limited. He is presently studying Computer Science at the National Open University, Victoria Island, Lagos.