LETS TALK ABOUT BULLYING

I WAS A VICTIM
TOO..
So I am going to
share a story with you and allow you make assertions, corrections and maybe
advise as well………………………………
“I joined Sterling
Bank a couple of years ago and I was a firebrand!! Literally, I had so much
faith in our bank, I preached, prayed and sang STERLING…nothing could deter
me…not bad network…or failing mobile app…I always defended my
bank…sometimes I blamed the other bank when deep within me I knew it was our
fault…
My first supervisor
was a woman and contrary to the famous belief that women never get along, it
was a blissful and great learning process under her leadership. Not once did
she have to complain, we were eager to learn under her and make mistakes as
much as possible, because we would eventually pull through even if she shouted
at us.
 She pushed me to be my best, I was relief SM
when I was less than 6months on the job TWICE….I wasn’t perfect…I was the
least experienced ET at the time… but the drive to be the best was there..
My next supervisor
was a young man, easy going, very mild voice, never ever raising his voice even
when correcting you. Life was wonderful, we still closed from work
late…almost a norm in the branches….but since our hearts were at peace, we didn’t
mind.
Then the next
supervisor, another man, different from the other ones but still very kind and
tolerant, ready to correct and teach. This supervisor was very firm but
professional, his attitude and dedication to work, and attention to detail
saved me from being roped into a theft that happened at work. I got queries but
it was strictly work based and corrections were taken immediately.
Now the next supervisor
was my introduction to other side of work. In his first meeting with us
(operations staff)….he instilled FEAR in us. He said “I came here to please my supervisor, after God, the next person
is my supervisor “.
 Nobody coughed. ‘Who born you??’ We were very afraid, but you dare not speak.
Sometimes he
laughed…Sometimes he tried to be funny…but most times he was a terror. He changed
our way of doing things, turned everything…it was like a coup happened
overnight. If you made a mistake on the job, you get to hear “you are not smart”….
 We were now afraid to make mistakes and when
we did, we “regularized” on
our own for the fear of backlash.
I loved to speak
up…but
 What do you do when your bully says “shebi they say there is freedom of
speech..we shall see”
.
…or if you try to speak up, he says “it has been noted, there will be
consequences:
 What do you do when you are too afraid to
speak??
I got so tired of
work, it held no meaning to me, some days I cried home, slipping gradually into
depression, then I finally opened up to my mom, she said “people like this only try to eat at your self esteem to make you
feel you don’t know what you are doing, keep striving to be the best at what
you do…and never stop being kind to your customers”.
In all of this, I
never reported to the authorities, too many questions, what if I became the scrape
goat and I allowed myself to be bullied into accepting so many wrongs.
You see, in my
case, my bully didn’t become my mentor, my bully didn’t become my friend…my
bully succeeded in killing my drive and its taking a lot of self will to push
myself to go all out for my bank.
Abu said something
profound….“If you see something,
say something”
I was bullied ONCE,
I was silent but I won’t be bullied again…

 About the Author
Here is what Andikan Inyang also known as ‘Sparks’ has to say about herself………………….

As
a Chemical Engineering graduate, former Immigration Officer and present
day banker…..and most importantly, a foodie, I hide behind my
pen…….therein lies my strength. I hope to pursue a career in writing
and explore the world of poetry. So help me God.

Oluwole Olusanya
Oluwole Olusanya is the Founder and Chief Executive Officer (CEO) of one of the fastest-growing lifestyle and entertainment website in the country. He is a banker, writer, blogger, public affairs analyst and a tax consultant. He anchors Trending Topics on SHEFFA where he shares his thoughts and opinions on trending issues. He is currently studying for a Master’s Degree in Business Administration at the University of South Wales, Wales, United Kingdom. He has diplomas in Banking and Finance, Investigative Journalism, Creative Writing, and Linguistics from Lagos State Polytechnic, Isolo, Lagos, University of Strathclyde, Glasgow, Scotland and The Open University, Milton Keynes, United Kingdom.