LETS TALK ABOUT BULLYING
share a story with you and allow you make assertions, corrections and maybe
advise as well………………………………
Bank a couple of years ago and I was a firebrand!! Literally, I had so much
faith in our bank, I preached, prayed and sang STERLING…nothing could deter
me…not bad network…or failing mobile app…I always defended my
bank…sometimes I blamed the other bank when deep within me I knew it was our
was a woman and contrary to the famous belief that women never get along, it
was a blissful and great learning process under her leadership. Not once did
she have to complain, we were eager to learn under her and make mistakes as
much as possible, because we would eventually pull through even if she shouted
when I was less than 6months on the job TWICE….I wasn’t perfect…I was the
least experienced ET at the time… but the drive to be the best was there..
was a young man, easy going, very mild voice, never ever raising his voice even
when correcting you. Life was wonderful, we still closed from work
late…almost a norm in the branches….but since our hearts were at peace, we didn’t
supervisor, another man, different from the other ones but still very kind and
tolerant, ready to correct and teach. This supervisor was very firm but
professional, his attitude and dedication to work, and attention to detail
saved me from being roped into a theft that happened at work. I got queries but
it was strictly work based and corrections were taken immediately.
was my introduction to other side of work. In his first meeting with us
(operations staff)….he instilled FEAR in us. He said “I came here to please my supervisor, after God, the next person
is my supervisor “.
laughed…Sometimes he tried to be funny…but most times he was a terror. He changed
our way of doing things, turned everything…it was like a coup happened
overnight. If you made a mistake on the job, you get to hear “you are not smart”….
we did, we “regularized” on
our own for the fear of backlash.
speech..we shall see”.…or if you try to speak up, he says “it has been noted, there will be
work, it held no meaning to me, some days I cried home, slipping gradually into
depression, then I finally opened up to my mom, she said “people like this only try to eat at your self esteem to make you
feel you don’t know what you are doing, keep striving to be the best at what
you do…and never stop being kind to your customers”.
never reported to the authorities, too many questions, what if I became the scrape
goat and I allowed myself to be bullied into accepting so many wrongs.
case, my bully didn’t become my mentor, my bully didn’t become my friend…my
bully succeeded in killing my drive and its taking a lot of self will to push
myself to go all out for my bank.
profound….“If you see something,
I was silent but I won’t be bullied again…
Here is what Andikan Inyang also known as ‘Sparks’ has to say about herself………………….
a Chemical Engineering graduate, former Immigration Officer and present
day banker…..and most importantly, a foodie, I hide behind my
pen…….therein lies my strength. I hope to pursue a career in writing
and explore the world of poetry. So help me God.
Oluwole Olusanya is the Founder and Chief Executive Officer (CEO) of one of the fastest-growing lifestyle and entertainment website in the country. He is a banker, writer, blogger, public affairs analyst and a tax consultant. He anchors Trending Topics on SHEFFA where he shares his thoughts and opinions on trending issues.
He is currently studying for a Master’s Degree in Business Administration at the University of South Wales, Wales, United Kingdom. He has diplomas in Banking and Finance, Investigative Journalism, Creative Writing, and Linguistics from Lagos State Polytechnic, Isolo, Lagos, University of Strathclyde, Glasgow, Scotland and The Open University, Milton Keynes, United Kingdom.