The Simple Skill That Improves Relationships

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The
skill that improves both romantic relationships and parenting skills.
Being
tuned in to the other person’s needs is the simple skill that improves
relationships, research finds.
Psychologists
call it ‘responsive caregiving’ and it means being aware of your partner’s mood
and how to respond to it.
For
example, sometimes people want cheering up, other times they prefer to be left
alone.
Responsive
caregiving not only improves relationships between parents, but is also good
for children.
The
study revealed that a common set of skills improved all family relationships.
Dr Abigail Millings, who led the study, said:
“It
might be the case that practicing being sensitive and responsive — for example,
by really listening and by really thinking about the other person’s perspective
— to our partners will also help us to improve these skills with our kids. But
we need to do more research to see whether the association can actually be used
in this way.”
The
study involved 125 couples and their children.
The
results revealed that responsive caregiving was the key to being a good partner
and was also linked to good relationships with children.
Dr Millings said:
“If
you can do responsive caregiving, it seems that you can do it across different
relationships. [It is the] capacity to be ‘tuned in’ to what the other person
needs. In romantic relationships and in parenting, this might mean noticing
when the other person has had a bad day, knowing how to cheer them up, and
whether they even want cheering up.[And it’s not] just about picking you up
when you’re down, it’s also about being able to respond appropriately to the
good stuff in life.”
The
study was published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin(Millings et
al., 2013).
SOURCE: PSYBLOG
Kayode Ojo
Kayode Emmanuel Ojo is the Co-Founder and Managing Director at SHEFFA Limited. He is presently studying Computer Science at the National Open University, Victoria Island, Lagos.