Ways to make yourself feel sexy


all had one of those days when you wake up just not feeling like the gorgeous
bombshell that you are. Whether it’s because you ate pizza, ice cream, or had a
couple extra glasses of wine the night before, or it happens to be that time of
the month and Aunt Flow is leaving you busting at the seams, or it’s just one
of those days — we’ve all been there.
you wake up feeling less than sexy, all it takes is a simple trick or two, to
rock those beautiful vibes again. For those days when you’re not quite feelin’
that #iwokeuplikethis selfie, fire up a few of these tips, and you’re
guaranteed to feel like your sexy self all day long.
a dance party

never been one to brag about my dancing skills, or lack thereof, and I’m not
about to start now, but if there’s one thing you can do immediately after
waking up when you’re just not feeling like a hottie in your body, I suggest
turning on some feel good tunes and having a little dance party with yourself,
your partner, or your kids.
to Berkeley Wellness, “Dancing may also be good for your mood. It has been
shown to reduce depression, anxiety, and stress, and boost self-esteem, body
image, coping ability, and overall sense of well-being, with the benefits
lasting over time.”
dressed up

dressed up doesn’t mean you have to break out your black tie attire or the
nicest dress hanging in your closet, but it means putting on something that
makes you feel beautiful, sexy and confident. I know when I’m not feeling my
best, it’s easy to reach for a pair of leggings and a big sweatshirt, and to
throw my hair back in a ponytail to “hide” my body as much as
possible. But yeah — this behavior isn’t doing me any favors.
have developed from a practical asset to a social marker: they affect the way
we see ourselves,” Psychologist World reported. “They help us to be
seen in the light that we wish to be, and also exude our personalities and
social status.” Instead of reaching for that oversized t-shirt, grab a
flirty and girly top, a pair of jeans and your favorite pair of shoes.
a new hair do

was the last time you got a hair cut or treated yourself to a day at the salon?
For me, it’s been over a year. No joke, I haven’t even gotten a trim. I always
considered my long locks to be a sexy feature, but over the last few months
I’ve noticed a not-so-sexy trend: I wear my hair in a top knot every single
day. It’s to the point that when I wear my hair down my coworkers are shocked
that I can fit so much hair into such a small bun all the time. I started
realizing that wearing my hair up wasn’t feeling sexy and when my hair was
down, it felt more like a mop than something fun to flip around when I want to
catch a glance.
it turns out, I’m not alone in feeling this way. Huffington Post style editor,
Madelyn Chung, said about chopping off her hair, “It made me realize,
there’s a newfound confidence that comes along with cutting off your hair.
Opting for shorter locks has that whole “f*ck-it-I-don’t-care-what-you-think”
attitude to it, and really, what’s more sexy than that?” Needless to say,
there’s a trip to the salon in my future.
out your undies

you still wearing that pair of stained, hole-filled underwear? Girl, swap that
out! According to French lifestyle coach, Tonya Leigh, “Everything is
about intention. If a woman is wearing something beautiful underneath her
clothing, she sends a very powerful message to herself and the world, and we
see it as confidence and mystique.”
think of those days when your underwear matches your bra, and while you know no
one will actually see it, you can’t help but smile and find yourself feeling
like you just may actually have your life — or at least your underpinnings —
pole dancing

once had a coworker who would always work late, except on Wednesdays because
she went to a yoga class. She always told me how much she loved the class and
how it made her feel so empowered. When I chose to leave that job, I wasn’t in
a great place and often found myself feeling stressed and very self conscious.
On my last day, she confessed that the yoga classes she had been attending
weren’t yoga classes at all, but rather pole dancing classes. Turns out, she
was on to something.
fitness regimes focus only on changing the way we look. It’s about the end
result and not the process. This leads many women to view working out as a
chore. Pole dancing flips that principle by teaching skill-based moves that are
challenging yet fun. This redirects the energy away from what your body looks
like toward what it can do, which is a much healthier way to keep fit,”
says NYC-based pole dance instructor, Irmingard Mayer.

so easy to get caught in our normal day-to-day routines and agendas. Wake up,
get in a workout, eat breakfast, go to work, come home, check the mail, make
dinner, put the kids to bed, and then pass out. When we find ourselves stuck in
a regimented routine, it can be hard to feel sexy. If you have kids or had a
long day at the office, sexiness can be the last thing on your mind when your
partner comes up behind you, puts their arms around your waist — and you’re
pretty sure there’s oatmeal in your hair, and nothing sounds better than
falling asleep on the couch.
love the way marriage and family therapist, Dr. Jane Greer, describes
spontaneity. “If you are at a party and your favorite song comes on, you
wouldn’t finish eating, carefully fold your napkin, take another drink and risk
getting out onto the dance floor with only the last notes of that song
left,” she says. “No, you’d jump up, grab your partner’s hand, enjoy
dancing to the song, and get back to everything else after. Sometimes life gets
in the way of the moment, and in letting that happen you let the passion
evaporate. The next time your partner gives you that romantic snuggle, try to
go with the flow.”
self love

feel that this tip may be the most important. When we practice loving ourselves
and our bodies, just as they are — each and every day — we can’t help but feel
Pamela Madesn, author of Shameless, says “This is what I can promise. If
you work on embracing who you are, every single day just like a religious
practice — things will change in your world. In so many ways, it is like
developing a healthy eating and exercising plan. There is a lot of
self-encouragement and coaching that has to happen.”
match and repeat

works for some ladies may not work for all and what works one day may not be
your solution the next. What makes you feel sexy every day definitely takes a
little trial and error and playing around, but as you mix and match these
ideas, regardless of the day you’re having, you’re going to feel like the
beautiful unicorn that you are. Own it, ladies!

Kayode Ojo
Kayode Emmanuel Ojo is the Co-Founder and Managing Director at SHEFFA Limited. He is presently studying Computer Science at the National Open University, Victoria Island, Lagos.